Communication:
-Communication communication communication. bạn need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, bạn cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So bạn need to be able to talk to them. Tell them bạn are upset. With the distance, bạn cannot behave like bạn would in a local relationship, bạn cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what bạn are doing every một phút of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when bạn do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so bạn know when (about when) the tiếp theo visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. bạn both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW bạn will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if bạn aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If bạn are feeling doubt. Remember that bạn tình yêu them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the tình yêu of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but bạn need to.
Set ngày Nights
-Talk about when bạn will have dates. Even with the distance bạn can have dates!
-Pick ONE ngày a week that no matter what, the two of bạn can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, bạn will know that bạn will talk at least that one day. If for some reason bạn cannot talk on ngày day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, hoặc texts, hoặc emails, however works best for bạn guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If bạn tình yêu them, why hide them?
-If bạn keep your relationship secret, are bạn ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless bạn don’t tình yêu them.
-If bạn keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if bạn are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to di chuyển where? How will bạn end the distance? bạn don’t need to end the distance right away, but If bạn plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of bạn plan on moving away, and bạn never talked about it, bạn both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. hoặc bạn will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they tình yêu you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, bạn know bạn will be upset with not doing what bạn wanted. If bạn end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If bạn don’t think bạn could ever leave your family, tell them that. If bạn don’t want to travel, tell them, if bạn want to wait longer before bạn di chuyển tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the tiếp theo visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how bạn feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your Những người bạn don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not trang chủ all the time, bạn will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If bạn have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair hoặc iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 hoặc higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, bạn can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If bạn don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype hoặc FaceTime, oovoo, Facebook has webcaming now, Google + has hangouts, etc.
-Communication communication communication. bạn need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, bạn cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So bạn need to be able to talk to them. Tell them bạn are upset. With the distance, bạn cannot behave like bạn would in a local relationship, bạn cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what bạn are doing every một phút of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when bạn do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so bạn know when (about when) the tiếp theo visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. bạn both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW bạn will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if bạn aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If bạn are feeling doubt. Remember that bạn tình yêu them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the tình yêu of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but bạn need to.
Set ngày Nights
-Talk about when bạn will have dates. Even with the distance bạn can have dates!
-Pick ONE ngày a week that no matter what, the two of bạn can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, bạn will know that bạn will talk at least that one day. If for some reason bạn cannot talk on ngày day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, hoặc texts, hoặc emails, however works best for bạn guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If bạn tình yêu them, why hide them?
-If bạn keep your relationship secret, are bạn ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless bạn don’t tình yêu them.
-If bạn keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if bạn are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to di chuyển where? How will bạn end the distance? bạn don’t need to end the distance right away, but If bạn plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of bạn plan on moving away, and bạn never talked about it, bạn both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. hoặc bạn will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they tình yêu you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, bạn know bạn will be upset with not doing what bạn wanted. If bạn end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If bạn don’t think bạn could ever leave your family, tell them that. If bạn don’t want to travel, tell them, if bạn want to wait longer before bạn di chuyển tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the tiếp theo visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how bạn feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your Những người bạn don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not trang chủ all the time, bạn will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If bạn have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair hoặc iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 hoặc higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, bạn can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If bạn don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype hoặc FaceTime, oovoo, Facebook has webcaming now, Google + has hangouts, etc.
