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The bold text is my own add ins to relate the situations to Bella and Edward
tình yêu is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like tình yêu but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real tình yêu takes time and doesn't happen overnight. Here are three things that people often confuse for love.
I don’t personally believe that tình yêu can really be defined bởi anyone, but oh well. People like to try new things.
Lust A.k.a, Twilight
Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for tình yêu at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody bạn hardly know. It is mistaken for tình yêu because the attraction is so strong.
This sounds a lot like Bella and Edward, right?
Lust can feel like tình yêu because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up bởi lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To tình yêu somebody bạn must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantaisie of what might be and reality can get Mất tích in the excitement.
I admit, this sounds a LOT like Bella, in the beginning
Overwhelmed bởi physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on bởi passionate attraction. If bạn are inexperienced in matters of the tim, trái tim it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.
Yes, Bella grabbed Edward a lot. Bella never really talked about Edward with anyone besides Edward. Both of them are inexperienced at matters of the heart
Lust differs from tình yêu like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the fantaisie and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.
Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, tình yêu is thêm than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.
Obsession a.k.a, New Moon
Obsessions are often mistaken for tình yêu because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be tình yêu if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much thêm misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.
Before anyone says that Bella and Edward never got to know each other before this stage, please allow me to direct bạn link. You’ll need to scroll a little further than halfway down the page to see Edward asking Bella about every detail of her life as a way to get to know her. This was before Edward đã đưa ý kiến he loved her, but after Bella claimed to be irrevocably in love, unfortunately.
The thêm time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the thêm intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious vòng tròn of behavior where the obsessed person grows thêm and thêm dependent on the other person to bolster their sense of self.
This pretty much speaks for itself. Bella running off with strange bikers, reckless cliff diving, etc
Even unrequited love, tình yêu that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, hoặc when one person is thêm invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid.
One could argue that Bella was in an unrequited relationship because Edward wasn’t actively present at a certain point
Real tình yêu is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If bạn feel like bạn have Mất tích yourself, if bạn are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if bạn find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person bạn could be dealing with obsession.
Also, keep in mind the Mormon belief that a partner is pretty much required.
Rebounding A.k.a, Jacob
A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on tình yêu but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.
Bella uses Jacob as a distraction from her obsessive mentality.
Rebounding can feel like tình yêu for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in tình yêu and thêm than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in tình yêu when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.
This explains all the confusing emotions. Bella turned to Jacob for the security. Jacob was misled bởi her intentions.
If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their trước đó relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like tình yêu but they are still impacted bởi unsettled feelings from the past.
Bella never got over Edward. It’s expected to believe that if she had gotten over him, hoặc if Edward had never been in the picture at all, there would have been something thêm between Bella and Jacob.
I believe that from this point on, Edward and Bella were indeed in love. Edward, I believe to have been in tình yêu earlier on. Bello jumped the gun and confused her lust with love, but it eventually caught up with her and things evened out.
I believe that real tình yêu cannot happen without a sense of obsession to keep bạn loyal. Lust is necessary to keep bạn interested, I guess, but I don't find it necessary. I don't see anything wrong with it either.
In conclusion, there's no denying the initial lust. Bella and Edward took the steps usually taken in forming a proper romantic relationship.
I will have thêm on this as I continue rereading the series.
The bold text is my own add ins to relate the situations to Bella and Edward
tình yêu is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like tình yêu but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real tình yêu takes time and doesn't happen overnight. Here are three things that people often confuse for love.
I don’t personally believe that tình yêu can really be defined bởi anyone, but oh well. People like to try new things.
Lust A.k.a, Twilight
Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for tình yêu at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody bạn hardly know. It is mistaken for tình yêu because the attraction is so strong.
This sounds a lot like Bella and Edward, right?
Lust can feel like tình yêu because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up bởi lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To tình yêu somebody bạn must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantaisie of what might be and reality can get Mất tích in the excitement.
I admit, this sounds a LOT like Bella, in the beginning
Overwhelmed bởi physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on bởi passionate attraction. If bạn are inexperienced in matters of the tim, trái tim it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.
Yes, Bella grabbed Edward a lot. Bella never really talked about Edward with anyone besides Edward. Both of them are inexperienced at matters of the heart
Lust differs from tình yêu like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the fantaisie and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.
Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, tình yêu is thêm than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.
Obsession a.k.a, New Moon
Obsessions are often mistaken for tình yêu because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be tình yêu if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much thêm misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.
Before anyone says that Bella and Edward never got to know each other before this stage, please allow me to direct bạn link. You’ll need to scroll a little further than halfway down the page to see Edward asking Bella about every detail of her life as a way to get to know her. This was before Edward đã đưa ý kiến he loved her, but after Bella claimed to be irrevocably in love, unfortunately.
The thêm time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the thêm intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious vòng tròn of behavior where the obsessed person grows thêm and thêm dependent on the other person to bolster their sense of self.
This pretty much speaks for itself. Bella running off with strange bikers, reckless cliff diving, etc
Even unrequited love, tình yêu that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, hoặc when one person is thêm invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid.
One could argue that Bella was in an unrequited relationship because Edward wasn’t actively present at a certain point
Real tình yêu is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If bạn feel like bạn have Mất tích yourself, if bạn are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if bạn find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person bạn could be dealing with obsession.
Also, keep in mind the Mormon belief that a partner is pretty much required.
Rebounding A.k.a, Jacob
A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on tình yêu but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.
Bella uses Jacob as a distraction from her obsessive mentality.
Rebounding can feel like tình yêu for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in tình yêu and thêm than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in tình yêu when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.
This explains all the confusing emotions. Bella turned to Jacob for the security. Jacob was misled bởi her intentions.
If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their trước đó relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like tình yêu but they are still impacted bởi unsettled feelings from the past.
Bella never got over Edward. It’s expected to believe that if she had gotten over him, hoặc if Edward had never been in the picture at all, there would have been something thêm between Bella and Jacob.
I believe that from this point on, Edward and Bella were indeed in love. Edward, I believe to have been in tình yêu earlier on. Bello jumped the gun and confused her lust with love, but it eventually caught up with her and things evened out.
I believe that real tình yêu cannot happen without a sense of obsession to keep bạn loyal. Lust is necessary to keep bạn interested, I guess, but I don't find it necessary. I don't see anything wrong with it either.
In conclusion, there's no denying the initial lust. Bella and Edward took the steps usually taken in forming a proper romantic relationship.
I will have thêm on this as I continue rereading the series.
