exclusive interview: selena gomez
Forget everything bạn think bạn know about Selena Gomez, Disney Princess. The Monte Carlo ngôi sao opens up to Seventeen about growing up, moving on, and falling in love.
Selena Gomez might be dating Justin Bieber, the guy every girl obsesses over, but she still has other crushes too. That’s the great thing about her: she’s growing up and is getting to know herself, but she’s not totally abandoning the girl bạn fell in tình yêu with on Wizards either.
Today, the 18-year-old actress is finding a fierce independence that’s helping her trade the TV life for major movie ngôi sao status, in July's Monte Carlo. But thêm importantly, she’s finding peace in her relationships—including her friendship with Demi—and is opening herself up to the possibility of real love. Seventeen sat down with Selena to talk love, life, and of course, Justin.
17: Your movie, Monte Carlo, is all about growing up and moving on—graduating and taking this first major trip alone. Do bạn feel as free as Grace is?
SG: Yeah, I’ve definitely gained a lot of that recently. I went on vacation over New Year’s with a bunch of my friends, for the first time, without my parents. That was so much fun. I feel like I’m in a place where I’m on my own a little bit. It’s nice.
17: Traveling with Những người bạn is definitely a major milestone. Who would bạn want to take with bạn on a trip to Paris (or Monte Carlo)?
SG: I’d tình yêu to go on vacation with Taylor [Swift]. I’ve been able to fly to Nashville to see her, and she’ll come to LA a lot, but it’d be nice to get away. It would be really fun. I’ve known Taylor for over three years now, so we’re at the point where we just get each other.
17: Is she your best friend?
SG: I’ve gotten to the point where the label of “best friend” is so ridiculous. If bạn have three people in your life that bạn can trust, bạn can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world. I have a lot of wonderful people in my life—probably five, collectively—who I can tell everything to. There’s Jennifer [Stone], my friend Ashley, and Taylor, and my two cousins.
17: Has it always been easy for bạn with friends? hoặc have bạn ever had a friendship fall apart?
SG: Yes. bạn reflect on the people who used to be in your life, and it’s like, ‘Wow, I can’t believe that person was ever really in my life.’ But people are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach bạn lessons. You’re growing and changing, and eventually, bạn can go from having all these Những người bạn to feeling like bạn have no one, because you’ve been betrayed, hoặc you’ve gone through things. But in this moment, I’m in such a good place with my friends. I feel confident and I’m happy there are people who I can truly trust in my life.
17: And if a person does betray you, do bạn ever give một giây chances?
SG: I believe in một giây chances, but I don’t believe in third hoặc fourth chances. I tình yêu talking through things, and I always want to make things work, if I really tình yêu someone, but eventually, if they can’t fix whatever is wrong, hoặc if they’ve done something and then they continue to do it, they’re probably not going to change for anybody. bạn can’t change a person. Jennifer Stone has told me a thousand times: “You want to be Những người bạn with people who double you, not cut bạn in half.”
17: As far as Những người bạn who change, hoặc go through something, bạn obviously went through that with Demi. Are bạn two still close?
SG: Yes, of course. There’s an amount of tình yêu that can never—no matter what—be taken away hoặc torn apart, no matter the situation. There are certain people who bạn will always, always love, so if anything, this just reminded me of how much I truly tình yêu her.
17: It’s so nice to be able to open yourself up to tình yêu that way. Do bạn feel like you’ve ever been in tình yêu before?
SG: I don’t know. I maybe had a first tình yêu and had my tim, trái tim broken, but reflecting on it, I don’t think that was love. I think that was just me being fifteen and going, "Oh my gosh! I know I’m in love. I’m going to marry him." So I don’t think that was love. I think as I’m getting older and having thêm in-depth relationships, maybe I’ll experience it. At the moment, I don’t know, exactly, if I’ve been in love.
17: But when bạn did feel like bạn were in love, how did bạn deal when it ended?
SG: I’ve very emotional. When I went through my first breakup, I thought it was the end of the world, and I thought I was going to die if I didn’t have him in my life. It was good to cry it out, and just scream, hoặc call my Những người bạn in the middle of the night crying. bạn can’t shut down, bạn can’t say, ‘What can I do to make this go away?’. bạn have to let it be painful and get through it. Every ngày gets better. Because when you’re in love, bạn kind of give everything and make that person your life. So every ngày bạn get thêm and thêm of yourself back, and it feels better.
17: You’ve been very private with your relationships in the past, but with Justin, you’ve been thêm open—you even coordinated Oscars outfits.
SG: I know. That was our prom.
17: Was there a corsage involved?
SG: No, but there should have been!
17: Is there a reason you’ve decided to be thêm open this time around, with Justin?
SG: I don’t like hiding. I do like to keep certain things to myself, but at the end of the day, I’m eighteen, and I’m going to fall in love. I’m going to hang out with people, and I’m going to explore myself, and I’m okay with that.
17: Since bạn are thêm open, you’ve obviously been through a tough time with Justin’s fans. Do bạn remember being younger, and being a người hâm mộ with a crush?
SG: Are bạn kidding me? I’m still thinking Zac Efron’s my husband.
17: Well we hear he’s on the market…
SG: No. I wouldn’t touch that. I tình yêu Vanessa [Hudgens] way too much.
17: Do bạn have anything bạn wish bạn could say to Justin’s những người hâm mộ now?
SG: I do see the passion that a lot of these girls have, and it’s beautiful. I tình yêu it. I really do. It’s special.
Forget everything bạn think bạn know about Selena Gomez, Disney Princess. The Monte Carlo ngôi sao opens up to Seventeen about growing up, moving on, and falling in love.
Selena Gomez might be dating Justin Bieber, the guy every girl obsesses over, but she still has other crushes too. That’s the great thing about her: she’s growing up and is getting to know herself, but she’s not totally abandoning the girl bạn fell in tình yêu with on Wizards either.
Today, the 18-year-old actress is finding a fierce independence that’s helping her trade the TV life for major movie ngôi sao status, in July's Monte Carlo. But thêm importantly, she’s finding peace in her relationships—including her friendship with Demi—and is opening herself up to the possibility of real love. Seventeen sat down with Selena to talk love, life, and of course, Justin.
17: Your movie, Monte Carlo, is all about growing up and moving on—graduating and taking this first major trip alone. Do bạn feel as free as Grace is?
SG: Yeah, I’ve definitely gained a lot of that recently. I went on vacation over New Year’s with a bunch of my friends, for the first time, without my parents. That was so much fun. I feel like I’m in a place where I’m on my own a little bit. It’s nice.
17: Traveling with Những người bạn is definitely a major milestone. Who would bạn want to take with bạn on a trip to Paris (or Monte Carlo)?
SG: I’d tình yêu to go on vacation with Taylor [Swift]. I’ve been able to fly to Nashville to see her, and she’ll come to LA a lot, but it’d be nice to get away. It would be really fun. I’ve known Taylor for over three years now, so we’re at the point where we just get each other.
17: Is she your best friend?
SG: I’ve gotten to the point where the label of “best friend” is so ridiculous. If bạn have three people in your life that bạn can trust, bạn can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world. I have a lot of wonderful people in my life—probably five, collectively—who I can tell everything to. There’s Jennifer [Stone], my friend Ashley, and Taylor, and my two cousins.
17: Has it always been easy for bạn with friends? hoặc have bạn ever had a friendship fall apart?
SG: Yes. bạn reflect on the people who used to be in your life, and it’s like, ‘Wow, I can’t believe that person was ever really in my life.’ But people are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach bạn lessons. You’re growing and changing, and eventually, bạn can go from having all these Những người bạn to feeling like bạn have no one, because you’ve been betrayed, hoặc you’ve gone through things. But in this moment, I’m in such a good place with my friends. I feel confident and I’m happy there are people who I can truly trust in my life.
17: And if a person does betray you, do bạn ever give một giây chances?
SG: I believe in một giây chances, but I don’t believe in third hoặc fourth chances. I tình yêu talking through things, and I always want to make things work, if I really tình yêu someone, but eventually, if they can’t fix whatever is wrong, hoặc if they’ve done something and then they continue to do it, they’re probably not going to change for anybody. bạn can’t change a person. Jennifer Stone has told me a thousand times: “You want to be Những người bạn with people who double you, not cut bạn in half.”
17: As far as Những người bạn who change, hoặc go through something, bạn obviously went through that with Demi. Are bạn two still close?
SG: Yes, of course. There’s an amount of tình yêu that can never—no matter what—be taken away hoặc torn apart, no matter the situation. There are certain people who bạn will always, always love, so if anything, this just reminded me of how much I truly tình yêu her.
17: It’s so nice to be able to open yourself up to tình yêu that way. Do bạn feel like you’ve ever been in tình yêu before?
SG: I don’t know. I maybe had a first tình yêu and had my tim, trái tim broken, but reflecting on it, I don’t think that was love. I think that was just me being fifteen and going, "Oh my gosh! I know I’m in love. I’m going to marry him." So I don’t think that was love. I think as I’m getting older and having thêm in-depth relationships, maybe I’ll experience it. At the moment, I don’t know, exactly, if I’ve been in love.
17: But when bạn did feel like bạn were in love, how did bạn deal when it ended?
SG: I’ve very emotional. When I went through my first breakup, I thought it was the end of the world, and I thought I was going to die if I didn’t have him in my life. It was good to cry it out, and just scream, hoặc call my Những người bạn in the middle of the night crying. bạn can’t shut down, bạn can’t say, ‘What can I do to make this go away?’. bạn have to let it be painful and get through it. Every ngày gets better. Because when you’re in love, bạn kind of give everything and make that person your life. So every ngày bạn get thêm and thêm of yourself back, and it feels better.
17: You’ve been very private with your relationships in the past, but with Justin, you’ve been thêm open—you even coordinated Oscars outfits.
SG: I know. That was our prom.
17: Was there a corsage involved?
SG: No, but there should have been!
17: Is there a reason you’ve decided to be thêm open this time around, with Justin?
SG: I don’t like hiding. I do like to keep certain things to myself, but at the end of the day, I’m eighteen, and I’m going to fall in love. I’m going to hang out with people, and I’m going to explore myself, and I’m okay with that.
17: Since bạn are thêm open, you’ve obviously been through a tough time with Justin’s fans. Do bạn remember being younger, and being a người hâm mộ with a crush?
SG: Are bạn kidding me? I’m still thinking Zac Efron’s my husband.
17: Well we hear he’s on the market…
SG: No. I wouldn’t touch that. I tình yêu Vanessa [Hudgens] way too much.
17: Do bạn have anything bạn wish bạn could say to Justin’s những người hâm mộ now?
SG: I do see the passion that a lot of these girls have, and it’s beautiful. I tình yêu it. I really do. It’s special.
