Dating Version 2.0: Modern Dating
Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating Lời khuyên is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to thêm modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your vòng tròn of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is bởi dating outside your usual "type" hoặc group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that bạn can't go out with a cute bóng rổ player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical hoặc Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait bởi the phone for him to call to ask bạn out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his Facebook Wall, hoặc mention him on Twitter. bạn don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick bạn up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy hiển thị up at your doorstep, then drop bạn off after the ngày for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why bạn can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where bạn plan to have bữa tối, bữa ăn tối hoặc the bowling alley where bạn intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps bạn avoid an awkward drive trang chủ if the ngày goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a bữa tối, bữa ăn tối and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean bữa tối, bữa ăn tối and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities bạn can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. bạn can even bring some mutual Những người bạn along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. bọc up the ngày (or night) at a quiet coffee cửa hàng so bạn can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much thêm than decoration for the bữa tối, bữa ăn tối bàn are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out thêm than just, "Anywhere bạn want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do bạn want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant bạn tình yêu hoặc an activity bạn find interesting. Your ngày will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect bạn thêm for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so bạn won't seem too eager hoặc mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for bạn to bring yourself down hoặc tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and bạn know it. A simple "Thank you" will hiển thị that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice bạn look in your dress hoặc how much pretty bạn are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your ngày to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot ghế, chỗ ngồi too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know bạn that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him trang chủ to your family. It also helps bạn avoid all the awkward các câu hỏi when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure bạn stay true to who bạn are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know bạn want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 phút is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a Halloween party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the ngày texting, tweeting, hoặc Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your ngày and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much bạn misses your ex hoặc how cute hoặc handsome your classmate hoặc neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him các câu hỏi and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if bạn call hoặc text a few days after the ngày to thank him and say bạn had fun, but don't harass him the tiếp theo week hoặc panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If bạn realize you're not as interested in him as bạn thought, politely let him know when he asks bạn out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.
Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating Lời khuyên is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to thêm modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your vòng tròn of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is bởi dating outside your usual "type" hoặc group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that bạn can't go out with a cute bóng rổ player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical hoặc Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait bởi the phone for him to call to ask bạn out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his Facebook Wall, hoặc mention him on Twitter. bạn don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick bạn up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy hiển thị up at your doorstep, then drop bạn off after the ngày for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why bạn can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where bạn plan to have bữa tối, bữa ăn tối hoặc the bowling alley where bạn intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps bạn avoid an awkward drive trang chủ if the ngày goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a bữa tối, bữa ăn tối and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean bữa tối, bữa ăn tối and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities bạn can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. bạn can even bring some mutual Những người bạn along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. bọc up the ngày (or night) at a quiet coffee cửa hàng so bạn can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much thêm than decoration for the bữa tối, bữa ăn tối bàn are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out thêm than just, "Anywhere bạn want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do bạn want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant bạn tình yêu hoặc an activity bạn find interesting. Your ngày will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect bạn thêm for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so bạn won't seem too eager hoặc mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for bạn to bring yourself down hoặc tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and bạn know it. A simple "Thank you" will hiển thị that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice bạn look in your dress hoặc how much pretty bạn are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your ngày to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot ghế, chỗ ngồi too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know bạn that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him trang chủ to your family. It also helps bạn avoid all the awkward các câu hỏi when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure bạn stay true to who bạn are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know bạn want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 phút is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a Halloween party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the ngày texting, tweeting, hoặc Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your ngày and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much bạn misses your ex hoặc how cute hoặc handsome your classmate hoặc neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him các câu hỏi and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if bạn call hoặc text a few days after the ngày to thank him and say bạn had fun, but don't harass him the tiếp theo week hoặc panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If bạn realize you're not as interested in him as bạn thought, politely let him know when he asks bạn out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.