No, they shouldn't, he's already walked away from her & to come in & out of a child's life, making promises & breaking them & appearing & disappearing, that's not a parent, if you are not going to be a constant, responsible parent, then the best thing you can do is walk away & stay away, if you can't love them, the way you should!

I hear you pmmom38, my sons have a lousy father, I use to make them go & now I know what a mistake that was, it hurt them more being around them, and the last couple of years I made them go they resented me for it, no sometimes the child might not understand where you are coming from, but in the end they will know that you were doing what was best for them, I mean, yes, I thought he'd show his true colors in time & he did & I wouldn't have to be the bad guy by telling them the truth myself but that hasn't worked out so well, so yeah, you're right, I know alot of women who say that they make their children go & that's just wrong, you shouldn't