Charm-the Real Feminine Mystique:
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If bạn have it, bạn don't need to have anything else; and if bạn don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else bạn have.'
Once bạn have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after bạn have discovered how much happier your life is because bạn are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming bạn need not to be any particular age, weight hoặc height hoặc have any specific coloring hoặc proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
tác giả and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of bạn might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I tình yêu this book, the values it teaches and the Lời khuyên it gives. Most of all, I tình yêu how this book has never made me feel thêm proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are thêm needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the Disney Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances hoặc birth for what bạn are. Your personality can become the way bạn wish it to be... It is up to bạn to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when bạn were born. It continues all your life. bởi giving thêm thought to your attitudes, bạn can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner bạn permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being thêm calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since bạn can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure bởi trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair hoặc even a new food! Trying new things opens up thêm possibilities in your life. bạn will be able to learn thêm about yourself (including what bạn like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give bạn thêm to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person bạn enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things bạn say witty. thêm important, the one who enjoys being with bạn is also someone whose wit bạn appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If bạn take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later tổng thể health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: hoa nhài & Pocahontas
bạn can hardly be charming and beautiful if bạn can't see and feel beauty. If bạn haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, hoặc the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
bạn should be interesting to others. That means bạn must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large hoặc small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what bạn really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, phim chiếu rạp hoặc sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the tim, trái tim of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. hiển thị tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way bạn would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: Lọ lem & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously hiển thị happiness, joy, surprise- hoặc even annoyance when bạn are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, bạn also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline hoặc control that bạn will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your vòng tròn of Những người bạn to just a few if bạn really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: Mulan & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give thêm to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If bạn don't think bạn are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If bạn don't like yourself, if bạn don't feel your actions, habits hoặc appearance can stand competition, hoặc comparison, bạn lack self-confidence. If bạn don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If bạn do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life bạn wont be able to do.
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If bạn have it, bạn don't need to have anything else; and if bạn don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else bạn have.'
Once bạn have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after bạn have discovered how much happier your life is because bạn are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming bạn need not to be any particular age, weight hoặc height hoặc have any specific coloring hoặc proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
tác giả and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of bạn might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I tình yêu this book, the values it teaches and the Lời khuyên it gives. Most of all, I tình yêu how this book has never made me feel thêm proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are thêm needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the Disney Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances hoặc birth for what bạn are. Your personality can become the way bạn wish it to be... It is up to bạn to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when bạn were born. It continues all your life. bởi giving thêm thought to your attitudes, bạn can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner bạn permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being thêm calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since bạn can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure bởi trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair hoặc even a new food! Trying new things opens up thêm possibilities in your life. bạn will be able to learn thêm about yourself (including what bạn like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give bạn thêm to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person bạn enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things bạn say witty. thêm important, the one who enjoys being with bạn is also someone whose wit bạn appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If bạn take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later tổng thể health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: hoa nhài & Pocahontas
bạn can hardly be charming and beautiful if bạn can't see and feel beauty. If bạn haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, hoặc the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
bạn should be interesting to others. That means bạn must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large hoặc small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what bạn really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, phim chiếu rạp hoặc sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the tim, trái tim of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. hiển thị tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way bạn would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: Lọ lem & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously hiển thị happiness, joy, surprise- hoặc even annoyance when bạn are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, bạn also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline hoặc control that bạn will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your vòng tròn of Những người bạn to just a few if bạn really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: Mulan & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give thêm to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If bạn don't think bạn are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If bạn don't like yourself, if bạn don't feel your actions, habits hoặc appearance can stand competition, hoặc comparison, bạn lack self-confidence. If bạn don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If bạn do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life bạn wont be able to do.