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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Yeah... Not too fun when someone migrates over to your Những người bạn instead, eh?
I have that sort of problem, except this guy isn't annoying and he wasn't bothering me; it's my friend's ex, and he won't get away from her. Just being around him makes her feel bad, hoặc maybe I should say "worse" since she has some depression.
All in all, I understand how you're feeling and I go through things like that too.
I can understand that bạn want him to leave your best Những người bạn be, but I think that's thêm of their decision. I say that because of two things: first off, if they don't mind him being around them, then that's fine. Second, when bạn put down "making my Những người bạn mad at me", it makes me think that they actually enjoy their company. If this is the case, then I don't believe bạn should interfere. If this isn't, I still think that bạn should talk to your Những người bạn about this little "problem" and see what bạn come up with. This doesn't mean "devise some plan" to ruin his life, embarrass him, etc. I mean actually sit down and talk about it, and then communicate with him and tell him how bạn all feel.
Let's say that your Những người bạn want to be around this guy. Seeing as bạn don't like him so much, I think that bạn should talk to your Những người bạn and work something out. For an example, maybe they could hang out with him at a time where you're not around, so that bạn don't feel so annoyed. If this still doesn't work out for you, think to yourself that he's at least not bothering you. And that he's not doing anything mean to your friends.
We'll go for another scenario here for the heck of it: let's say that your Những người bạn got together and talked about it. bạn all go and talk to this guy, but he still doesn't leave bạn alone. What do bạn do? I would suggest doing the same as bạn did: just ignoring him. I wouldn't suggest anything like "getting even" with him; no one needs to stoop down to any levels. Deal with situations maturely and calmly, and remember to be patient. Let not a single person yell, complain, whine, etc. It sounds like something a parent would say, but it really does make things worse if bạn do so.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other các câu hỏi that bạn may have.
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